登陆注册
9800300000009

第9章 生活中的快乐自己做主 (9)

他们没有好奇心,也不能自我挑战。他们不能享受发挥自己才能的纯粹乐趣,除非用棍子抽打着,否则他们会呆站着。与这样的人多说也无益,他们无法让自己悠然自得,他们的本性就不够慷慨,不利用时间拼命工作,只会浑浑噩噩地打发时间。当无须工作,既不饥饿又不口渴时,对他来说,这个充满生命的世界只是一片空白。如果不得不需要个把小时来等火车,他们就会双目圆睁、神情呆滞。看着他们,你就会猜想那里没有可看的风景,也没有可以交谈的人;也可能会觉得他们被吓呆或被疏离了。然而,他们极有可能是在工作中兢兢业业的人,对契约中的瑕疵或市场的变动有着敏锐洞察力的人。

他们上过中学,受过高等教育,但是却总是把目光放在奖章上;他们游历各国,与智者结交,但是总考虑一己之私。似乎是嫌自己起初的灵魂还不够渺小似的,他们一生只是拼命工作,从不娱乐,以此来压缩自己的灵魂世界。直到40岁,还是在那里无精打采地等火车,不想去与他人攀谈,对娱乐也没有一点儿兴趣。在他还是孩童时,还可以在箱子上爬上爬下;到了20岁的时候,他可以盯着姑娘看;但是到了现在,烟斗抽完了,鼻烟盒也空了的时候,我们这位先生却直挺挺地坐在长椅上,目光忧郁。这样的生活,我并不认为是成功的。但是,他本人并不是唯一受到这种习惯折磨的人,还包括他的妻子、孩子、朋友和亲人,甚至还有与他同乘一车的人。

一个人始终如一地献身于其所谓的事业,就会永远忽略许多其他事物。而且,一个人的事业是否是他要做的最重要的事情,是不能用任何形式来确定的。要公正地判定的话,其中一点是显而易见的,那就是在人生的戏剧里,最聪明、最善良、最仁慈的角色都是由无偿的演员来扮演的。在世人看来,那是悠闲的状态。因为在这出戏剧里,不仅有散步的绅士、歌唱的侍女,还有乐队里勤勉的小提琴手,而且有坐在长凳上鼓掌的观众,他们都真正扮演着一个角色,并对整体效果发挥着重要的作用。毋庸置疑,你依赖于律师和股票经纪人的关照,列车员和信号员使你快速地转移,街道上警察队对你的佑护,但是对于那些路上偶遇的,使你开怀一笑的人,难道你一点儿也不心存感激吗?纽科姆上校的帮忙,却使他的朋友破了财;弗雷德·贝哈姆向人借衬衣,却是一个诡计。但是比起巴恩斯先生, 他们两位倒是更值得结交。虽然福斯塔夫既不庄重又不诚实,但是我想我能说出一两个沮丧的巴拉巴,我想如果没有他们,这个世界会更好。哈兹里特曾提到:与那些懂得卖弄的朋友相比,他对诺思科特的责任感更强,尽管诺思科特对他并未有任何所谓的恩惠之举,因为他坚持认为,一个好的同伴就是最大的施恩者。

我知道世界上有一些人,除非以痛苦和苦难为代价赐予他们恩惠,否则他们便不会有感恩之心。这真是一种无礼的性情。一个人可能会给你写一封六页的信,同你漫无边际地闲谈,或者你开心地用半个小时读他的一篇文章,还有所收获。如果这篇手稿是他用心血写成的,就像魔鬼的契约一样,是否你会觉得更有恩于你?如果你的来信者诅咒你的刁难,你真的觉得你就会对他更加感激吗?乐趣比责任更能令人受益,就像仁慈的品质一样,由于没有任何矫饰,能给人加倍的福祉。

忙中偷闲是一种能力,暗示的是一种广泛的爱好和强烈的个性。

catholic ['k鎙ik] adj. 天主教的;宽宏大量的

Catholic priests brought him up.

他是由天主教的牧师带大的。

furious ['fju:ris] adj. 狂怒的;激烈的;热烈兴奋的;喧闹的

Facing such furious competitions, they can't win at all.

面对那样激烈的竞争,他们根本不可能赢。

paralysed ['p鎟laizd] adj. 瘫痪的;惊呆的;麻痹的

His left arm is paralysed.

他的左臂麻痹了。

perpetual [p'petul] adj. 永久的;四季开花的;不断的;无期限的

I can still hear your perpetual calling for me.

我仍旧听得见你那永恒的召唤。

不管是在中学还是大学,是在教会还是市场,极度的忙碌都是缺乏活力的象征。

他们一生只是拼命工作,从不娱乐,以此来压缩自己的灵魂世界。

一个人始终如一地献身于其所谓的事业,就会永远忽略许多其他事物。

If they have to wait an hour or so for a train, they fall into a stupid trance with their eyes open.

fall into:落入;分成

Do you really fancy you should be more beholden to your correspondent, if he had been damning you all the while for your importunity?

all the while:一直;始终

13快乐自己做主

Are We Having Fun Yet

佚名 / Anonymous

We've all been brainwashed! We were all taught the work ethic!

"Work (and suffer) till you die, or if you're lucky retire. We don't have time to waste on frivolities. We have responsibilities to fulfill. We have to be serious, work hard, rise in our career, make lots of money, and make earning money and advancing in our career a priority."

I wish to change that programming in my life. I know that when I do the things I enjoy doing, things work out better for me. I know that when I do something against my will, against my heart, it doesn't work out well. I know that stressing myself out to try to get a job done usually takes twice as long as taking time out and doing that same task at some other time in a relaxed manner.

We can change the criteria by which we decide what to do in our lives. Instead of "Will it bring in lots of money or advance my career", we need to ask ourselves, "Will I enjoy doing this? Will this be fun? Am I looking forward to getting started on this?"

If you can't answer "yes" to these questions, then quite possibly this is not the task for you!

If it is something that must be done, i.e. taxes, dishes, etc., the solution is to find someone else to do them for you. There are some people who will enjoy and love to do what you prefer not to do. Really! For example, I am not the world's best housekeeper. I do not really enjoy cleaning, washing floors, windows, etc. Yet there are some people who enjoy the meditative aspect of this work and who really get satisfaction from a job well done. It is to my benefit to pay someone to do this work so I can take that time earning money doing things that I enjoy.

We are all very different and different things appeal to each one of us. Just because someone else enjoys a particular thing does not mean that you must. We can trust what I call the "fun index" to assist us in knowing if a particular action is the one for us. We can break away from the rule of thumb that judges things by whether they bring money or career advancement. We can change that to making our decisions based on whether an action will bring us pleasure and personal satisfaction. Does the work you do leave you feeling proud and pleased with yourself? Are you following the voice of "should" or the one of "want to"?

Yet, the programming is strong. I find myself struggling over a task and it ends up dragging itself out. Have you noticed that the things that you dislike doing are the ones that seem to take forever to get done? As for the opposite viewpoint, well as the saying goes, "Time flies when you're having fun!"

Learning to go against that old programming and trusting the "fun index" is an ongoing project. Every small step is, at the same time, a big leap. Each step will move you away from dissatisfaction with your life and closer to self-love, self-acceptance, self-esteem and joy in your everyday existence.

Anytime you ignore that inner prompting, you accumulate self-loathing and disappointment in your being. Your inner child once again feels letdown and unimportant. Each letdown reinforce the inner child's belief that everybody else's wishes are more important than its own. Once again its desires are relegated to the lowest priority on the list.

同类推荐
  • 那些来自华尔街的赚钱经

    那些来自华尔街的赚钱经

    该丛书由美国英语教师协会推荐,特点有三:幽默逗趣,文字浅显易懂,让你笑着学英文!
  • 大学英语六级词汇新解

    大学英语六级词汇新解

    本书对对新大纲中单词词义进行了英、汉两种释义。特别是英语释义,使学生更容易对词义有直观、深刻的理解,在无形中提高读者的英语表达能力。对大学六级考试中单词的用法进行了详细、全面的讲解。只有掌握了这些用法,才能真正学以致用,克服英语用词中不知所措的弱点。
  • A New View of Society

    A New View of Society

    本书为公版书,为不受著作权法限制的作家、艺术家及其它人士发布的作品,供广大读者阅读交流。
  • 英译漫谈及“花儿”译赏

    英译漫谈及“花儿”译赏

    本书对英汉两种语言的特点进行了比较,就英译汉常用方法与技巧、不同文体的翻译进行了漫谈。有汉译英诗歌(34首)的对照赏析,更有西部民歌“花儿”的(130首)的翻译欣赏。
热门推荐
  • 穿书我抱住了反派大腿

    穿书我抱住了反派大腿

    穿成《盛世荣宠》中最可怜的小炮灰,林岳阳欲哭无泪。为了求得一线生机,她决定就近先抱一条能抱的大腿。虽然这大腿是个反派,但好歹是活到结局的反派。于是她抱着第一大权臣的大腿,一路斗女主、躲男主。
  • 校花的极品贴身特工

    校花的极品贴身特工

    一少年,负血仇,学得艺,携剑灵,护妹妹,拥美人,乐逍遥!
  • 幻夜森林之微光

    幻夜森林之微光

    上接『幻夜学院异能争霸』,下接『幻夜森林之眩光』,番外篇『幻夜之前世尘缘』
  • 快穿之无尽末日

    快穿之无尽末日

    程诺做梦也没想到,一辈子平凡的自己,有一天居然会真实经历世界末日!觉醒的异能鸡肋无比,末日规则一无所知,且看末日新人程诺如何在无尽世界摸爬滚打......本书计划无男主,新人新书多多指教~
  • 金玉花开

    金玉花开

    金家六代秀才,三代人在江西找矿,祖祖辈辈找矿,后继有人……本文描写了金家这一代——一金开来的一生,他勤勤恳恳的工作,他对友情的珍惜,他对爱情的执着,相伴到老的美好。
  • 斗罗之杀戮永恒

    斗罗之杀戮永恒

    杀戮与时间,两个强大的代名词,主角龙皓因体质特殊为混沌之体,令其父,将之放在器界——斗罗大陆。一朝觉醒,祖龙相助,且看龙皓如何化身为龙傲视九天之下!
  • 傲娇饲养指南

    傲娇饲养指南

    单身二十几年的明辰在出任务的时候,被丘比特射了一箭,开始了他漫漫的追妻旅途,原本以为这是要以深情感人,经历生离死别,才能在一起的剧情,结果…明辰低头看了眼靠在自己身上的,全心依赖的某人“我一见钟情的对象,居然也会喜欢我。”武力值爆表又苏又暖.明辰x冷漠自私天才小傲娇.言熙
  • 千金散尽

    千金散尽

    突厥他钵可汗派使节求婚,宣帝堂妹千金公主下嫁。千金公主闭门家中坐,祸从天上来,可君命难违,她只得接受。,她含着热泪告别父母,踏上了北去之路。宣帝病死,千金公主的父亲赵王宇文招起兵反对隋文帝,被诛灭九族。噩耗传来,千金公主悲痛欲绝,她发誓要为父母报仇,忍辱负重下又是怎样的结局?
  • 再见我的柏拉图

    再见我的柏拉图

    全世界都知道许木槿喜欢江沐寒,却没有人知道,江沐寒也喜欢许木槿。听闻,浅兮一中的江学霸高冷,无情还毒舌,是聊天的终结者。许木槿:假的,江沐寒就是只披着羊皮的狼,老无赖。江沐寒:哦~木木是在说我吗?许木槿背后一凉“没有没有,你人见人爱,花见花开,沉鱼落雁,闭月羞花,全宇宙最帅……”
  • 异能殇爱之冰漠恋

    异能殇爱之冰漠恋

    辛语晗自幼和弟弟辛瑞宸相依为命,因是孤儿救常受到同龄人的欺凌,她逐渐封闭起自己。养成了态度冷漠的性格!自从一天夜晚,她意外的获得了异能,经过长时间的练习,她能够熟练地驾驭异能,成为了货真价实的异能行者、又惊又喜的她会作何反应?越来越妖娆的她又会遇到什么麻烦?辛语晗考上了理想的知名大学学院。只想过平静的生活得她会那么顺心吗?在学习中她结交了三个朋友并结实了妖娆帅气的殷朔杰。殷朔杰竟是一个高阶异能行者!过着让人咋舌的雍华生活,只因父母掌管着数一数二的商场大企业,,一向对事物冷酷而漠不关心的俊帅妖娆的他会为辛语晗而敞开心扉吗?他们之间又会发生什么事情?